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Stuff I foundIf you can have different levels, it's not a binary<br> <br> <a href="https://pixelfed.social/discover/tags/lgbtqia?src=hash" class="u-url hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#lgbtqia</a> <a href="https://pixelfed.social/discover/tags/queer?src=hash" class="u-url hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#queer</a> <a href="https://pixelfed.social/discover/tags/transgender?src=hash" class="u-url hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#transgender</a> <a href="https://pixelfed.social/discover/tags/nonbinary?src=hash" class="u-url hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#nonbinary</a> <a href="https://pixelfed.social/discover/tags/cishet?src=hash" class="u-url hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#cishet</a> <a href="https://pixelfed.social/discover/tags/genderfluid?src=hash" class="u-url hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#genderfluid</a> <a href="https://pixelfed.social/discover/tags/activism?src=hash" class="u-url hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#activism</a> <a href="https://pixelfed.social/discover/tags/pride?src=hash" class="u-url hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#pride</a>
Seb ∞<p>Introduce yourself. Right on!</p><p>Hi <a href="https://mastodon.social/tags/fediverse" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>fediverse</span></a>, I'm Seb. A <a href="https://mastodon.social/tags/neurodiverse" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>neurodiverse</span></a> (<a href="https://mastodon.social/tags/audhd" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>audhd</span></a>), <a href="https://mastodon.social/tags/cishet" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>cishet</span></a> <a href="https://mastodon.social/tags/genx" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>genx</span></a> dude in his mid-forties and living in Canada.</p><p><a href="https://mastodon.social/tags/80s" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>80s</span></a> kid<br><a href="https://mastodon.social/tags/90s" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>90s</span></a> teen<br><a href="https://mastodon.social/tags/00s" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>00s</span></a> young adult<br><a href="https://mastodon.social/tags/10s" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>10s</span></a> adult<br><a href="https://mastodon.social/tags/20s" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>20s</span></a> wtf</p><p>Forever lost and trying to find my way.</p><p>Current interests include: <a href="https://mastodon.social/tags/philosophy" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>philosophy</span></a> <a href="https://mastodon.social/tags/lactofermentation" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>lactofermentation</span></a> <a href="https://mastodon.social/tags/kefir" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>kefir</span></a> <a href="https://mastodon.social/tags/drawing" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>drawing</span></a> <a href="https://mastodon.social/tags/reading" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>reading</span></a> <a href="https://mastodon.social/tags/selfhosting" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>selfhosting</span></a> <a href="https://mastodon.social/tags/linux" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>linux</span></a> <a href="https://mastodon.social/tags/foss" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>foss</span></a> <a href="https://mastodon.social/tags/gardening" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>gardening</span></a> <a href="https://mastodon.social/tags/cycling" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>cycling</span></a> <a href="https://mastodon.social/tags/mentalhealth" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>mentalhealth</span></a> <a href="https://mastodon.social/tags/dropouttv" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>dropouttv</span></a> <a href="https://mastodon.social/tags/kink" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>kink</span></a> <a href="https://mastodon.social/tags/democracy" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>democracy</span></a> <a href="https://mastodon.social/tags/ukraine" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>ukraine</span></a> <a href="https://mastodon.social/tags/palestine" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>palestine</span></a> <a href="https://mastodon.social/tags/existentialdread" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>existentialdread</span></a> </p><p><a href="https://mastodon.social/tags/introduction" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>introduction</span></a> <a href="https://mastodon.social/tags/introductionpost" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>introductionpost</span></a></p>
In Search of a Better World<p><a href="https://mstdn.social/tags/Trump" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Trump</span></a> wants to ban <a href="https://mstdn.social/tags/Trans" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Trans</span></a> people from the military, and he wants to reinstate the ban on gay people in the military too. </p><p>But. </p><p>He also wants a bunch of wars all over the globe. So after he's done, all the <a href="https://mstdn.social/tags/CisHet" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>CisHet</span></a> people will be dead, and the <a href="https://mstdn.social/tags/LGBT" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>LGBT</span></a> folk will inherit <a href="https://mstdn.social/tags/America" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>America</span></a>. Who says he's doing nothing for <a href="https://mstdn.social/tags/LGBTRights" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>LGBTRights</span></a>? </p><p><a href="https://mstdn.social/tags/USPol" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>USPol</span></a> <a href="https://mstdn.social/tags/USpolitics" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>USpolitics</span></a></p>
Susan Larson ♀️🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️🌈<p>“I have mixed feelings”: <a href="https://mastodon.online/tags/Challengers" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Challengers</span></a> star <a href="https://mastodon.online/tags/JoshOConnor" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>JoshOConnor</span></a> on <a href="https://mastodon.online/tags/straight" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>straight</span></a> <a href="https://mastodon.online/tags/actors" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>actors</span></a> playing <a href="https://mastodon.online/tags/gay" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>gay</span></a> <a href="https://mastodon.online/tags/roles" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>roles</span></a>.</p><p>— The issue isn’t “<a href="https://mastodon.online/tags/authenticcasting" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>authenticcasting</span></a>.” <a href="https://mastodon.online/tags/Gay" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Gay</span></a> and <a href="https://mastodon.online/tags/Trans" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Trans</span></a> <a href="https://mastodon.online/tags/actors" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>actors</span></a> are largely confined to <a href="https://mastodon.online/tags/LGBTQ" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>LGBTQ</span></a>+ <a href="https://mastodon.online/tags/roles" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>roles</span></a>, while <a href="https://mastodon.online/tags/cishet" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>cishet</span></a> roles remain inaccessible. When <a href="https://mastodon.online/tags/straight" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>straight</span></a> <a href="https://mastodon.online/tags/actors" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>actors</span></a> take those few roles, it reduces opportunities for <a href="https://mastodon.online/tags/LGBTQ" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>LGBTQ</span></a>+ <a href="https://mastodon.online/tags/actors" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>actors</span></a>, leaving them <a href="https://mastodon.online/tags/marginalized" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>marginalized</span></a> in the <a href="https://mastodon.online/tags/industry" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>industry</span></a>.</p><p><a href="https://mastodon.online/tags/Women" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Women</span></a> <a href="https://mastodon.online/tags/Transgender" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Transgender</span></a> <a href="https://mastodon.online/tags/LGBTQ" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>LGBTQ</span></a> <a href="https://mastodon.online/tags/LGBTQIA" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>LGBTQIA</span></a> <a href="https://mastodon.online/tags/Entertainment" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Entertainment</span></a> <a href="https://mastodon.online/tags/TV" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>TV</span></a> <a href="https://mastodon.online/tags/Movies" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Movies</span></a> <a href="https://mastodon.online/tags/Representation" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Representation</span></a> <a href="https://mastodon.online/tags/Culture" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Culture</span></a> </p><p><a href="https://www.gaytimes.com/culture/i-have-mixed-feelings-challengers-josh-oconnor-on-straight-actors-playing-gay-roles/" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" translate="no" target="_blank"><span class="invisible">https://www.</span><span class="ellipsis">gaytimes.com/culture/i-have-mi</span><span class="invisible">xed-feelings-challengers-josh-oconnor-on-straight-actors-playing-gay-roles/</span></a></p>
Susan Larson ♀️🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️🌈<p>This <a href="https://mastodon.online/tags/Cishet" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Cishet</span></a> <a href="https://mastodon.online/tags/guy" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>guy</span></a>’s take on why <a href="https://mastodon.online/tags/heterosexuality" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>heterosexuality</span></a> doesn’t <a href="https://mastodon.online/tags/makesense" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>makesense</span></a> is hitting home on <a href="https://mastodon.online/tags/TikTok" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>TikTok</span></a> </p><p>While <a href="https://mastodon.online/tags/straightness" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>straightness</span></a> is seen as <a href="https://mastodon.online/tags/society" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>society</span></a>’s <a href="https://mastodon.online/tags/default" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>default</span></a> <a href="https://mastodon.online/tags/sexuality" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>sexuality</span></a>, <a href="https://mastodon.online/tags/LGBTQ" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>LGBTQ</span></a>+ <a href="https://mastodon.online/tags/folks" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>folks</span></a>’ are constantly worried that their <a href="https://mastodon.online/tags/love" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>love</span></a> <a href="https://mastodon.online/tags/lives" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>lives</span></a> will be up for <a href="https://mastodon.online/tags/debate" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>debate</span></a>. But one straight guy on TikTok thinks the <a href="https://mastodon.online/tags/opposite" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>opposite</span></a> should be true, and he took to TikTok to share his <a href="https://mastodon.online/tags/hottake" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>hottake</span></a> with the world. </p><p><a href="https://mastodon.online/tags/Women" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Women</span></a> <a href="https://mastodon.online/tags/Transgender" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Transgender</span></a> <a href="https://mastodon.online/tags/LGBTQ" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>LGBTQ</span></a> <a href="https://mastodon.online/tags/LGBTQIA" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>LGBTQIA</span></a> <a href="https://mastodon.online/tags/SexualOrientation" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>SexualOrientation</span></a> <a href="https://mastodon.online/tags/Sexuality" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Sexuality</span></a> <a href="https://mastodon.online/tags/Representation" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Representation</span></a> <a href="https://mastodon.online/tags/Culture" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Culture</span></a> </p><p><a href="https://www.intomore.com/the-internet/obsessed/this-straight-guys-take-on-why-heterosexuality-doesnt-make-sense-is-hitting-home-on-tiktok/" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" translate="no" target="_blank"><span class="invisible">https://www.</span><span class="ellipsis">intomore.com/the-internet/obse</span><span class="invisible">ssed/this-straight-guys-take-on-why-heterosexuality-doesnt-make-sense-is-hitting-home-on-tiktok/</span></a></p>
MusiqueNow :pride: ✡️ 🇵🇸 :anarchismhebrew:<p>texted a mate who is a <a href="https://todon.eu/tags/cishet" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>cishet</span></a> <a href="https://todon.eu/tags/gendernonconforming" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>gendernonconforming</span></a> man, asked if he wanted to say anything, he said no. </p><p>oh well...</p>
MusiqueNow :pride: ✡️ 🇵🇸 :anarchismhebrew:<p>Hey lovely people: </p><p>I wanted to boost <a href="https://todon.eu/tags/queer" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>queer</span></a>/#lgbtqiaplus :newpride: :anqueer_flag: vids of people telling their own stories, etc. </p><p>I wanted to highlight the part of the rainbow that don't get enough attention ( :HeartIntersex: <a href="https://todon.eu/tags/intersex" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>intersex</span></a>, :heart_pan: <a href="https://todon.eu/tags/pansexual" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>pansexual</span></a>, :heart_ace: <a href="https://todon.eu/tags/asexual" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>asexual</span></a>, :heart_aro: <a href="https://todon.eu/tags/aromantic" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>aromantic</span></a>, etc) </p><p>What I couldn't find, were videos of <a href="https://todon.eu/tags/CisHetGenderNonconformingMen" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>CisHetGenderNonconformingMen</span></a> telling their own stories.</p><p>If there are <a href="https://todon.eu/tags/cishet" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>cishet</span></a> men who are <a href="https://todon.eu/tags/gendernonconforming" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>gendernonconforming</span></a> out there, tell your story </p><p><a href="https://todon.eu/tags/PrideMonth" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>PrideMonth</span></a></p>
AstroMancer5G (she/her)<p>Even if you're <a href="https://spore.social/tags/cishet" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>cishet</span></a>, don't move to an <a href="https://spore.social/tags/unsafe" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>unsafe</span></a> <a href="https://spore.social/tags/state" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>state</span></a>. It doesn't matter how <a href="https://spore.social/tags/cheap" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>cheap</span></a> <a href="https://spore.social/tags/homes" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>homes</span></a> are, or how much <a href="https://spore.social/tags/money" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>money</span></a> you're being offered (bribed?) to go. Don't put your (present or <a href="https://spore.social/tags/future" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>future</span></a>) <a href="https://spore.social/tags/children" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>children</span></a>, <a href="https://spore.social/tags/grandchildren" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>grandchildren</span></a>, etc. in an unsafe <a href="https://spore.social/tags/environment" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>environment</span></a> to be <a href="https://spore.social/tags/queer" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>queer</span></a> in. Don't contribute to that state's <a href="https://spore.social/tags/economy" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>economy</span></a>. Don't put down (or maintain) <a href="https://spore.social/tags/roots" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>roots</span></a> there. It's never going to get better there in any <a href="https://spore.social/tags/permanent" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>permanent</span></a> way, only worse.</p>
MusiqueNow :pride: ✡️ 🇵🇸 :anarchismhebrew:<p><a href="https://todon.eu/tags/Japan" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Japan</span></a>'s <a href="https://todon.eu/tags/Otokonoko" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Otokonoko</span></a> <a href="https://todon.eu/tags/crossdressingculture" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>crossdressingculture</span></a> challenge <a href="https://todon.eu/tags/gendernorms" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>gendernorms</span></a> • <a href="https://todon.eu/tags/FRANCE24English" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>FRANCE24English</span></a><br><a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UHQ4X9UcvZw" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" translate="no" target="_blank"><span class="invisible">https://www.</span><span class="ellipsis">youtube.com/watch?v=UHQ4X9UcvZ</span><span class="invisible">w</span></a></p><p>Most, if not all of these men are <a href="https://todon.eu/tags/cishet" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>cishet</span></a>, including married men with their wives' blessing.</p><p>It's just freedom to express oneself.</p><p><a href="https://todon.eu/tags/GNC" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>GNC</span></a> <a href="https://todon.eu/tags/gendernonconformingMEN" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>gendernonconformingMEN</span></a> <a href="https://todon.eu/tags/defyinggendernorms" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>defyinggendernorms</span></a></p>
Your Autistic Life FR/EN/ES<p>PSA about asking trans folks about their genitals.</p><p>This one's for you. Well, if you are trans, you already know this. This is for the cis people, especially the cishet ones.</p><p>Don't ask a trans person about their genitals, ever.</p><p>"But this friend of mine was cool with it."</p><p>Yo, that was one trans person. They don't talk for the entire community. Maybe *they* were cool with your invasive questions. A lot of them won't be cool with it.</p><p>If you don't plan to bed them ever, keep your damn mouth shut.</p><p>"But, you know... it might go into that direction... 😏"</p><p>Wipe that damn smirk off your face. That it *may* go into that direction is not *proof* that it will go into that direction. They may only see you as a friend. Until you know for a fact that an encounter will happen, don't even go there.</p><p>"But I do know that they want me in this way."</p><p>Still don't!</p><p>"What????"</p><p>I'm serious. Still don't.</p><p>"But..."</p><p>If they want an encounter with you, you will know ahead of time. See, I'm not generally a jerk. Partners of mine have generally been forthcoming with the information. I've even had trans friends tell me, just on the basis of me not being a dirtbag who keeps asking invasive questions.</p><p>"What if they don't just tell me."</p><p>Use your brain. For instance, in a dating profile, if someone mentions top surgery but not bottom surgery, chances are that the bottom surgery hasn't happened yet.</p><p>"But what if we're about to discuss what they'd like me to do to them and I need to know what I'm dealing with? So that I can use the right vocabulary."</p><p>Still, don't ask.</p><p>"Are you crazy?????"</p><p>No, I'm not. Here's a way to get the information without having to ask directly. "How do you call your genitals?" The answer to this will usually be useful in two ways, you'll learn what term they want you to use, and you'll know what you're dealing with. It'll also show that you care about them.</p><p>"Wait? They don't all use the same terms?"</p><p>Nope. You cannot assume that if someone uses one term, everyone else will use the same term.</p><p>"How do you know this?"</p><p>It was imparted to me by my partners, in a couple of lectures. I'd like to avoid you getting lectured.</p><p>The above is my experience as a cis pansexual man. I've always known what I needed to know ahead of time. Even the failures I mention above are my experience, not because I did them (except for the last one) but because I was a bystander doing damage control.</p><p>Now, go forth and don't be a jerk! 😘 </p><p><a href="https://mast.yourautisticlife.com/tags/PSA" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>PSA</span></a> <a href="https://mast.yourautisticlife.com/tags/trans" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>trans</span></a> <a href="https://mast.yourautisticlife.com/tags/cishet" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>cishet</span></a> <a href="https://mast.yourautisticlife.com/tags/genitals" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>genitals</span></a></p>
MusiqueNow :pride: ✡️ 🇵🇸 :anarchismhebrew:<p>I'd like to ask <a href="https://todon.eu/tags/cishet" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>cishet</span></a> members of the <a href="https://todon.eu/tags/GuylinerBrethern" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>GuylinerBrethern</span></a>:</p><p>Is it easier for you to socialise now, than say 5 years ago?</p><p>Can you socialise without people making assumptions or freaking out?</p><p>Do you feel confortable wearing something that a suffocating soceity says is so-called 'female' (nail polish, long well-groomed hair, certain colours, certain articles of clothing, make up, etc)</p><p> <a href="https://todon.eu/tags/GNC" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>GNC</span></a> <a href="https://todon.eu/tags/LoudAndProudGNC" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>LoudAndProudGNC</span></a> <a href="https://todon.eu/tags/gendernonconformingMEN" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>gendernonconformingMEN</span></a></p>
MusiqueNow :pride: ✡️ 🇵🇸 :anarchismhebrew:<p>RE: <a href="https://todon.eu/tags/transathletes" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>transathletes</span></a> :heart_trans: </p><p>A <a href="https://todon.eu/tags/boxer" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>boxer</span></a> who is <a href="https://todon.eu/tags/transman" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>transman</span></a> beat a boxer who is a <a href="https://todon.eu/tags/cishet" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>cishet</span></a> man.</p><p>Leave trans athletes alone!</p><p>Let transathletes compete</p>
Lauren Hug<p><span class="h-card"><a href="https://eldritch.cafe/@ceruleanarc" class="u-url mention" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@<span>ceruleanarc</span></a></span> I love this post. And the same can be said of so many <a href="https://mastodon.sdf.org/tags/cishet" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>cishet</span></a> <a href="https://mastodon.sdf.org/tags/white" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>white</span></a> <a href="https://mastodon.sdf.org/tags/male" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>male</span></a> “thinkers.” I long for their confidence. Not to say whatever bullshit pops into my head, but to say the things I’m pondering based on extensive interdisciplinary experience, conversation, &amp; reading. And not to grift anyone or prop up exploitative systems, but to contribute to building a world where all thrive.</p>
Ellis Stormwolf (she/her) 😼<p>I knew that Jordan <a href="https://eldritch.cafe/tags/Peterson" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Peterson</span></a> was a charlatan, but there were a few things about him that I didn't know:</p><p>1) He's a doctor of <a href="https://eldritch.cafe/tags/psychology" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>psychology</span></a>. As a mental health professional, may I just openly say, "Ew." Yes, he's very good at empathizing with you and in gaining your trust. We literally learn how to do that in school. Weirdly, psychopaths and narcissists also learn to do that rather successfully, only we also learn how to help people find their way in a confusing world (not very hard if you just take the time to <em>listen</em> to someone and reflect on what they say). Is he inspirational? Sure. But the quality of a person's thinking has nothing to do with how inspirational they are.</p><p>After all, many people find Donald <a href="https://eldritch.cafe/tags/Trump" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Trump</span></a> very inspiring.</p><p>2) He is a simple man with just one hypothesis that he expresses as fact: human beings and <a href="https://eldritch.cafe/tags/lobsters" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>lobsters</span></a> respond to <a href="https://eldritch.cafe/tags/serotonin" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>serotonin</span></a> in the same way. Because this is true, he says, then the <a href="https://eldritch.cafe/tags/pyramid" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>pyramid</span></a> <a href="https://eldritch.cafe/tags/hierarchy" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>hierarchy</span></a>, with one person or group at the top, is the natural state of humankind. If you noticed a leap in <a href="https://eldritch.cafe/tags/logic" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>logic</span></a> there, yeah...so did every other reasonable person on the planet. His cultists must have missed it.</p><p>Also, it turns out that biologists are well aware that invertebrates and vertebrates respond to serotonin in <em>opposite</em> ways, so that's interesting: how Peterson's entire <a href="https://eldritch.cafe/tags/worldview" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>worldview</span></a> is based on a falsehood. It turns out, Peterson is not a <a href="https://eldritch.cafe/tags/biologist" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>biologist</span></a>. Who knew?</p><p>3) Because hierarchies are a <a href="https://eldritch.cafe/tags/natural" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>natural</span></a> part of lobster society, then they are a natural part of human societies too. Please ignore the fact that lobsters don't have societies. Peterson would appreciate that.</p><p>Furthermore, because hierarchies are a natural part of a human society, then hierarchies with one group or individual at the top are natural to human society. Please ignore the fact that throughout the <a href="https://eldritch.cafe/tags/history" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>history</span></a> of the fucking planet, humans and non-human animals that collect into social groups have built many different types of hierarchies, including several where <a href="https://eldritch.cafe/tags/women" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>women</span></a> rule collectively at the top (e.g., lions). Peterson would appreciate that.</p><p>Further-furthermore, because pyramid-based hierarchies are biologically entrenched, we must eschew any attempt by the <a href="https://eldritch.cafe/tags/left" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>left</span></a> to modify our societal structure. It exists, and therefore it is good. Please ignore the fact that of <a href="https://eldritch.cafe/tags/capitalism" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>capitalism</span></a> and the <a href="https://eldritch.cafe/tags/patriarchy" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>patriarchy</span></a>, both of which are <a href="https://eldritch.cafe/tags/systems" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>systems</span></a> that Peterson thinks are natural parts of the human psychology, the first of these to come about (patriarchy) is no older than <a href="https://eldritch.cafe/tags/agriculture" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>agriculture</span></a>.</p><p>Weirdly, lobsters don't grow their own food. It's almost as if <a href="https://eldritch.cafe/tags/humans" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>humans</span></a>...at some point...must have evolutionarily pulled away from lobsters. (Namely, back when we were all worms.)</p><p>4) The role of the left is to speak for the naturally (and appropriately) disadvantaged folks at the bottom, according to Peterson. Just to speak, by the way. We shouldn't <em>do</em> anything about it. The role of the <a href="https://eldritch.cafe/tags/right" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>right</span></a> appears to be to remind us that hierarchies exist and therefore we should do nothing about our current one. And then, the left should say, "Oh. Yeah... That sucks." And we're done!</p><p>ALL OF SOCIETY'S PROBLEMS ARE SOLVED! HOORAY!</p><p>5) Everything that Peterson says is fucking word garbage. He will literally talk for hours and say nothing, but he knows how to sound super profound. He's little more than a narcissistic self-help guru who believes that because he has a PhD in one subject, he's qualified to speak on all subjects.</p><p>This, by the way, is never true. It's why Ben <a href="https://eldritch.cafe/tags/Carson" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Carson</span></a>, renowned neurosurgeon, knew less than nothing about Egyptian history and quasi-intentionally caught COVID to own the libs.</p><p>I can see why Peterson is popular. I'd be <a href="https://eldritch.cafe/tags/popular" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>popular</span></a> and rich too, if I had that <a href="https://eldritch.cafe/tags/cishet" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>cishet</span></a> <a href="https://eldritch.cafe/tags/white" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>white</span></a> <a href="https://eldritch.cafe/tags/male" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>male</span></a> <a href="https://eldritch.cafe/tags/confidence" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>confidence</span></a> to say whatever bullshit popped into my brain as if it were unadulterated <a href="https://eldritch.cafe/tags/truth" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>truth</span></a>. And if I were enough of a psychopath to not care about who gets hurt by my shameless grifting.</p><p>Anyway, if you thought this post was long, you'll love this video by my buddy Cody: <a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hSNWkRw53Jo" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><span class="invisible">https://www.</span><span class="ellipsis">youtube.com/watch?v=hSNWkRw53J</span><span class="invisible">o</span></a></p><p><a href="https://eldritch.cafe/tags/jordanPeterson" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>jordanPeterson</span></a> <a href="https://eldritch.cafe/tags/socialJustice" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>socialJustice</span></a> <a href="https://eldritch.cafe/tags/grifter" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>grifter</span></a> <a href="https://eldritch.cafe/tags/altRight" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>altRight</span></a></p>
MusiqueNow :pride: ✡️ 🇵🇸 :anarchismhebrew:<p><a href="https://invidious.sethforprivacy.com/watch?v=mCUIuCuzdII" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><span class="invisible">https://</span><span class="ellipsis">invidious.sethforprivacy.com/w</span><span class="invisible">atch?v=mCUIuCuzdII</span></a> </p><p><a href="https://todon.eu/tags/music" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>music</span></a> <a href="https://todon.eu/tags/musik" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>musik</span></a> <a href="https://todon.eu/tags/musique" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>musique</span></a> <a href="https://todon.eu/tags/musikken" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>musikken</span></a> <a href="https://todon.eu/tags/musik" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>musik</span></a> </p><p><a href="https://todon.eu/tags/TRex" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>TRex</span></a> <a href="https://todon.eu/tags/BallroomOfMars" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>BallroomOfMars</span></a> </p><p><a href="https://todon.eu/tags/QueerRadio" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>QueerRadio</span></a>* <a href="https://todon.eu/tags/WeAreTheRadio" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>WeAreTheRadio</span></a> <a href="https://todon.eu/tags/MastoRadio" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>MastoRadio</span></a> <a href="https://todon.eu/tags/TootRadio" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>TootRadio</span></a> <a href="https://todon.eu/tags/FediRadio" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>FediRadio</span></a> <a href="https://todon.eu/tags/pouetradio" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>pouetradio</span></a> </p><p>* <a href="https://todon.eu/tags/MarcBolan" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>MarcBolan</span></a> was a <a href="https://todon.eu/tags/cishet" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>cishet</span></a> man, but he was also a <a href="https://todon.eu/tags/gnc" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>gnc</span></a> &amp; <a href="https://todon.eu/tags/gay" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>gay</span></a> icon, hence part of <a href="https://todon.eu/tags/queerculture" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>queerculture</span></a></p>
Amelia 🏳️‍⚧️ Baeddelia<p>I feel like a lot of people underestimate the extent to which <a href="https://mastodon.lol/tags/misogyny" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>misogyny</span></a> is one of the driving forces behind the self-inflicted wounds that comprise the majority of <a href="https://mastodon.lol/tags/cishet" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>cishet</span></a> <a href="https://mastodon.lol/tags/men" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>men</span></a>'s issues under <a href="https://mastodon.lol/tags/patriarchy" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>patriarchy</span></a>. They hate <a href="https://mastodon.lol/tags/women" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>women</span></a> and would literally rather die than be like us in any way.</p>
Amelia 🏳️‍⚧️ Baeddelia<p>Most <a href="https://mastodon.lol/tags/men" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>men</span></a> are <a href="https://mastodon.lol/tags/cishet" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>cishet</span></a> men. Most people in decision-making positions in institutions are cishet men. <a href="https://mastodon.lol/tags/Patriarchy" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Patriarchy</span></a> hurts men too. But for most men the wounds are self-inflicted, and they hurt themselves out of hatred for the rest of us. 5/15</p>
FilthyOldPerv :18_plus:<p><a href="https://adultsonly.social/tags/Cock" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Cock</span></a> <a href="https://adultsonly.social/tags/Dick" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Dick</span></a> <a href="https://adultsonly.social/tags/Hairy" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Hairy</span></a> <a href="https://adultsonly.social/tags/OlderMen" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>OlderMen</span></a> <a href="https://adultsonly.social/tags/CisHet" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>CisHet</span></a> </p><p>Always looking for direct messages from cis women who like this.</p>
Real Quack<p><span class="h-card"><a href="https://mstdn.social/@TheRaDR" class="u-url mention" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@<span>TheRaDR</span></a></span> </p><p>Agreed. </p><p>I also wish folx were more understanding of the different kinds of <a href="https://union.place/tags/privilege" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>privilege</span></a> </p><p>Yes, I'm a <a href="https://union.place/tags/white" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>white</span></a> <a href="https://union.place/tags/man" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>man</span></a> - I'm also <a href="https://union.place/tags/disabled" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>disabled</span></a>, <a href="https://union.place/tags/queer" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>queer</span></a> and <a href="https://union.place/tags/trans" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>trans</span></a>.</p><p>I'm not saying these <a href="https://union.place/tags/Cancel" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Cancel</span></a> each other, only that it's <a href="https://union.place/tags/complicated" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>complicated</span></a> and dependent on <a href="https://union.place/tags/Context" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Context</span></a></p><p>On another <a href="https://union.place/tags/SocialMedia" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>SocialMedia</span></a> platform, I was getting flak from a man who happened to be <a href="https://union.place/tags/CisHet" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>CisHet</span></a> <a href="https://union.place/tags/Abled" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Abled</span></a> and <a href="https://union.place/tags/Black" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Black</span></a>. </p><p>It's not a <a href="https://union.place/tags/race" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>race</span></a> to the <a href="https://union.place/tags/bottom" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>bottom</span></a> and we are all gonna <a href="https://union.place/tags/Fail" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Fail</span></a> if we don't <a href="https://union.place/tags/JoinTogether" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>JoinTogether</span></a> and <a href="https://union.place/tags/help" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>help</span></a> each other</p>
EdenDestroyer (He/Him)<p>With the trying times that the people of the <a href="https://mastodon.social/tags/LGBTQ" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>LGBTQ</span></a> community are facing, I, as a <a href="https://mastodon.social/tags/cishet" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>cishet</span></a> man, ask you, what can i do for you? What can we do better? What can i do to help contribute to the creation of a <a href="https://mastodon.social/tags/SafeSpace" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>SafeSpace</span></a> for you?</p>