"People like you" is a wild fucking phrase to level at someone in this day and age..

Calm down, guy.

Man: women are pieces of art! I just want to hang them on the wall and care for them and protect them!!

Me: hey, that's actually objectification. Women are human beings.

Man: SHUT THE FUCK UP YOU STUPID FUCKING BITCH WHORE I SAID YOU'RE ART I WANT TO CARE FOR

Women: YEAH WHY IS THERE ALWAYS ONE BITCH WHO RUINS IT HE WAS JUST BEING NICE

So, I've been thinking a lot about #matriarchy and groups of people. From my own experience, sometimes groups with even the best of intentions can turn into pools of #ToxicMasculinity when males with egos start trying to run things and boss everyone around. I saw that happen with my own coven, when a member of #AIM started having the final say about everything -- often overriding our High Priestess (he was her consort). From what I've read about AIM on a national level (including excerpts from #KleeBenally's book, #NoSpiritualSurrender and #MaryCrowDog's #LakotaWoman), it seems to have been pretty commonplace. So much for Iroquois matriarchy, eh? (The coven-mate in question was Mohawk).

To see how toxic masculinity and weaponized misogyny harms men too, just watch this "joke" video that's circulating virally of a blue-collar man being goaded into licking an electric bug-zapper paddle by his so-called friends:

https://www.erosblog.com/2025/07/02/dont-be-a-pussy-do-something-painful-instead/

He said "I'm scared!" and they goaded him just once with the dread specter of inadequate masculinity, throwing the "pussy" epithet at him. Once was enough.

"Misogyny has become a political strategy — here’s how the pandemic helped make it happen

Online misogyny isn’t just fringe — it’s baked into the architecture of the internet itself and, increasingly, serves as a powerful political tool."

Brianna I. Wiens, University of Waterloo; Nick Ruest, York University, Canada; Shana MacDonald, University of Waterloo
For The Conversation:

https://theconversation.com/misogyny-has-become-a-political-strategy-heres-how-the-pandemic-helped-make-it-happen-256043
#misogyny #hate #toxicMasculinity

He’s not wrong; still, just 2 assholes being assholes.

The UN has recently warned about the dangers of online misogyny, specifically in relation to the so-called 'manosphere'. FRANCE 24's Sharon Gaffney speaks to sex counsellor and therapist Claire Ferrero. She says that online mysogynist influencers prey on the insecurities of young men for profit.
#feminism #socialmedia #misogyny #manosphere #ToxicMasculinity

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uTzWfx4z7ZQ

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One in three Australian men say they have committed intimate partner abuse, world-first research finds

Longitudinal study finds affectionate father-son relationships linked to lower risk of men later committing emotional or physical abuse

#men #Sexism #RapeCulture #ToxicMasculinity #ViolenceAgainstWomen #VAW #GenderedViolence #Rape #RapeCulture #SexualAssault #Crime #Criminology #CriminalJustice

https://www.theguardian.com/society/2025/jun/03/one-in-three-australian-men-say-they-have-committed-intimate-partner-violence-world-first-research-finds?CMP=Share_AndroidApp_Other

Tate brothers face UK rape charges.
About time they faced the consequences of their actions!

https://www.politico.eu/article/andrew-tate-tristan-tate-uk-rape-human-trafficking-charges/

One of my current #reads "The Hero With A Thousand Faces" by Joseph Campbell, who is the #american Tolkien. I'm excited to crack this open because it discusses how myth inspires and invites people to grow and create. And with so much discussion of #manliness to obsessional levels, I think #toxicMasculinity has manifested because of the lack of myth. Reading is seen as "unmanly", the #bible is seen as fact. Men need mythic heroes to emulate. Beowulf, Erik The Red, Thoreau's Walden. #books

#MeToo #ToxicMasculinity #SexualAssault #SexualHarassment #DomesticViolence #Predators

Men have the LARGEST role to play in this area. Be heroic. Stand up and call it out.

Young #US men are joining #Russian churches promising 'absurd levels of manliness' [and #ToxicMasculinity!]

by Lucy Ash, May 26, 2025

" 'A lot of people ask me: 'Father Moses, how can I increase my manliness to absurd levels?''

"In a YouTube video, a priest is championing a form of virile, unapologetic masculinity.

"Skinny jeans, crossing your legs, using an iron, shaping your eyebrows, and even eating soup are among the things he derides as too feminine.

"There are other videos of Father Moses McPherson - a powerfully built father of five - weightlifting to the sound of heavy metal.

"He was raised a Protestant and once worked as a roofer, but now serves as a priest in the Russian Orthodox Church Outside Russia (#ROCOR) in Georgetown, Texas, an offshoot of the mother church in Moscow.

"ROCOR, a global network with headquarters in New York, has recently been expanding across parts of the US - mainly as a result of people converting from other faiths.

"In the last six months, Father Moses has prepared 75 new followers for baptism in his church of the Mother of God, just north of Austin.

" 'When my wife and I converted 20 years ago we used to call #Orthodoxy the best-kept secret, because people just didn't know what it was,' he says.
'But in the past year-and-a-half our congregation has tripled in size.'

"Convert Theodore - who until recently rejected all religion - lifts weights three times a week with Father Moses
During the Sunday liturgy at Father Moses's church, I am struck by the number of men in their twenties and thirties praying and crossing themselves at the back of the nave, and how this religion - with traditions dating back to the 4th century AD - seems to attract young men uneasy with life in modern America.

"Software engineer Theodore tells me he had a dream job and a wife he adored, but he felt empty inside, as if there was a hole in his heart. He believes society has been "very harsh" on men and is constantly telling them they are in the wrong. He complains that men are criticised for wanting to be the breadwinner and support a stay-at-home wife.

" 'We are told that's a very toxic relationship nowadays,' Theodore says. 'That's not how it should be.'" [smh...]

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/c30q5l8d4lro

Archived version:
https://archive.ph/p2R0W

Ich möchte nie wieder die Frage hören, ob wir den Feminismus wirklich noch brauchen! Wir leben offenbar in einer toxisch männlichen Welt, in der sehr viele allo cis hetero Männer nicht mal das Minimum auf die Reihe kriegen!

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The "She Matters" mural in Hosier Lane, Melbourne - a mural that names the women who have been killed in attacks of gendered violence, has been vandalised.

The perpetrators painted "war on men" across the names and pictures of the women murdered.

We can't even have our grief.

I'm so tired of men.

When I rise to power, one of my first acts will be to establish national cuddle clinics for all those emotionally neglected souls who think volume equals value.

We get it. Your dad should’ve hugged you.

There's no need to install a jet engine on your scooter.

#Noise
#ToxicMasculinity
#Overcompensating

My poll has concluded, and it has confirmed my suspicions - a lot of men (myself included) have not really been socialized to talk openly about their emotions.

This might be a generational thing - I grew up in 1980s Germany, and I think younger generations are getting better at this. It might also be a matter of education - while I have PhD, I am from a working class family.

But it definitely was, and is, a problem. The default assumption always was that men had to stand on their own, that men had to cope with anything life threw at them, that any man who could _not_ cope with things was weak and deserving of contempt - and the only "negative emotion" that was acceptable to show was anger and rage.

Which is messed up - if we are not free to talk about our emotions, then how are we supposed to work through them other than trial and error? I do know that it took me many years to work though my own issues.

I think this is a great contributor to #ToxicMasculinity . Don't get me wrong, none of this excuses the men who embrace it for their actions. They have full agency, and own their toxic behavior. But when you are taught that anger is the only negative emotion that you can publicly express, then embracing it can become very tempting.

#masculinity #GenderRole
https://mementomori.social/@juergen_hubert/114413772099713150