It's interesting how it's always the men with the "LordMasterDivineDomlyGod" names who make declarations of how sadism/masochism works for everyone*, and when you question what they've said they decide you're the one being stubborn and ignorant?

Like, my guy.. my little guy, it's ok that other people experience things in different ways to you. It's really ok.

#kink #bdsm #Ds #Dominant #submissive #fetlife

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* brought to you by the ever pervasive bullshit idea that sadists are naturally dominant and masochists are naturally submissive, because sadism is active and dynamic, but masochism is passive and receptive.

Him:
I'm in security. I'm a consultant.

Me:
OK, well I don't play with anyone who is a cop or works cop-adjacent, like in security companies.

Him:
Umm well actually it's finance security. I'm not a security guard

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1. You said security, my guy.
2. That's not really any better.
3. Still not interested.

I run a local kink group on Facebook, and in November called someone in about being a chaser.. they decided to leave instead of engaging with the conversation about how chasing and the fetishisation of trans bodies is actually transphobia. After they left I attached a ban to their account so they couldn't rejoin and start shit because I had a feeling...

They've just tracked me down on Fetlife - 5 months later - and started drama in multiple groups there about it ("you banned me for no reason!"), posting in groups I'm in and commenting on threads I've posted in.

...but I made a mistake for banning them?

If these guys displayed such obnoxious behaviour in a civilized #egalitarian #African #huntergatherer society, they would be taken down mercilessly with #laughter and merriment -- almost always by older #women.

If they continued to throw their weight about with obnoxious #dominant #male behaviour, they would be taken OUT. Certainly in the Kalahari that could be done by a child with a poisoned arrow. Most likely by a bunch of hunters doing it together.

But if these guys had grown up in such a society, it's extremely unlikely they'd behave like such assholes. For tens and hundreds of thousands of years, women simply selected against obnoxious male dominance.

It is only a recent historic aberration in the life of our species, and most normal human beings know it.

Hi! I am a #demisexual passive #switch with a big passion for men with a #servicekink, #dominant or #submissive, and a little passion for other genders.
My languages are German and English.

I don't want to fuck you, I want you to crawl around on the floor making barnyard noises and kiss My boots after I kick you in the cock n balls.

I deserve to be worshipped and spoiled by men who have to ask permission to even be in My presence

it's very simple

I had a dream last night where I was going to be consentingly whipped by two guys (one of whom was Greg, the other was a guy I used to go to church with - wtf, brain?).. but it was just the discussion beforehand negotiating the scene etc.

It ended up involving a LOT of math.. like, we all pulled out pen, paper, and calculators to work out what size room we needed to be in. I was arguing that we actually need to get video footage of them both using the whips to see how much they step around and add that to the radius of their swing also.

They were arguing that we didn't need to go that far because it surely wouldn't add that much to the measurements.

I was also arguing that [whip length + arm length] wasn't going to be accurate enough either, and we had to measure from the midpoint of the body.

Anyways, kink brain overthrown by nerve brain.. I'm disappointed that we didn't get to the sexy part of the dream, but also the math planning was fun too.